Making Mistakes and Admitting Them!

Written by Christy Whitman April 11, 2013
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When I was a child my mom always said, “I am always right.” There was no arguing with her because she would never admit she was wrong. Even if I showed her that she was mistaken about something, she could never admit it. She would make some excuse that left me feeling totally unheard.

Making mistakes and then admitting that we made them is not easy, but it is the adult thing to do.

The other day, Alex was missing his belt. Maxim and Alex have similar belts. I put one belt on Maxim, thinking it was his.

Later that day, we found the other belt in our playroom. I said, “Oh good, we found your belt, Alex.”

He then said to me, “That is not my belt. The one on Maxim is my belt.”

I was so sure I was right that I barely listened to him, and I tried to convince him that the belt we found was his and that Maxim was wearing his belt.

He started to get mad at me to the point that his behavior was unacceptable. So I put him in a time out.

After his time out he said to me, “Mommy, can you just listen to me?”

“Yes, Alex.”

“The belt that Maxim is wearing is my belt. The one in the playroom is Maxim’s.”

So I said, “Ok, let’s go see.” Thinking that I was right, I would show Alex by taking the belt off of Maxim.

Well, I was the one who was mistaken. The belt Maxim was wearing was longer, and therefore it was Alex’s belt.

I immediately hugged Alex and told him I was wrong. I apologized for not listening to him.

Admitting we are wrong is never easy. It was not easy to admit that I made a mistake because I learned at an early age (by the way my mom would not admit her mistakes) that mistakes are bad.

I wanted to show my boys that we are human and we make mistakes. When we do make mistakes, we learn from them and move on. I told Alex I was sorry for not listening.

It felt good to be an adult and to show my children that they can make mistakes, but learning from them is the key.

 

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